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Love, Lies, and Legacies 
The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly
Carl Nichols

In our search for love, we believe lies that destroy legacies.

Love built on lies leads to legacies built on brokenness.

“The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly”

The Lie We Believe:

We focus on the good, we ignore the bad, and we think it won’t get ugly.

The Lie We Believe:

1. The Good – The Mask We See 

Genesis 2:25
Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.

Genesis 3:7
Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves.

Infatuation Bias – We focus only on the good and ignore the flaws.  

Confirmation Bias – We see what we want and ignore what we don’t.  

Expectation Bias – We project our hopes and ignore reality.  

Emotional Blindness – We fear being alone and ignore red flags.  

The Lie We Believe:

2. The Bad – The Baggage We Ignore

Mom and Dad

Wounds and Words

Habits and Hangups

Him or Her

False Expectations

Pride and Insecurity

Hebrews 12:1

Let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles.

What you ignore today, wrecks tomorrow.

The Lie We Believe:

3. The Ugly – The Consequences We Deny  

2 Samuel 12:11-12 

(Nathan the Prophet to King David) “This is what the Lord says: ‘Out of your own household I am going to bring calamity on you. 

“‘Before your very eyes I will take your wives and give them to one who is close to you, and he will sleep with your wives in broad daylight. 

“‘You did it in secret, but I will do this thing in broad daylight before all Israel.’”

Seven Generations Principle…

Epigenetics & Generational Trauma

Behavioral Patterns & Family Systems Theory

Financial & Social Cycles

Cultural & Identity Formation

Exodus 34:7
(God to Moses) “Yet [the Lord] does not leave the guilty unpunished; he punishes the children and their children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation.”

Deuteronomy 7:9 
Know therefore that the Lord your God is God; he is the faithful God, keeping his covenant of love to a thousand generations of those who love him and keep his commandments.

The Lie We Believe:

4.  The Solution – The Way to Wholeness

 
Matthew 11:28-30 
(Jesus) “Come to me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”

Philippians 4:12-14
Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. 

Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead,

I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.

Three Step Solution…

1. Recognize the baggage

2. Repent and release  

3. Replace lies with truth

Jesus doesn’t just reveal our baggage—he redeems it.

Jesus doesn’t just call out your sin—he rewrites your story!